I believe the point in cases like this isn’t that you control all of these, things, the point would be to recognize where your energy is going and not overextending.

“Keep my job” might be one of the four (or however many) things. Then you might, for example, have “spend time with my family”, “read a book a week”, and “take an evening for myself at leat twice a month.” None of that requires you to control your work schedule (though that would help, obviously), it just means that when you *do* have control over your time, you spend it on the things that really matter to you.

It also means that when someone asks you to, say, join a weekly poker game, you have a framework for accepting or refusing based on whether it will pull focus away from the things on your list (of course, you can always dump something on the list and add the poker night).